Aw....*^_^* This is so sweet:) .....or not:-p

Originally posted by Joseph L. Kilbreth on Tuesday, December 5, 2006 at 6:04pm

This is a reposting of an old blog from several years ago on Facebook and has not been proof-read or edited, so keep this in mind as you read typos and culturally late items. Thanks for reading!

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You know, I've been reading all those "What every guy should do for his girl" and "what girls should do for their guy" and all that fuzzies junk, and I really have to be honest. The plethra of notes, facebook groups, and quotes that are dedicated to this subject are really a little too high school for me.

When you think about it, what gives some single, lonely, chivalrous guy the right to tell all other guys that they should be more like him because he treats women correctly and with respect? Or what about the broken-hearted girl who got mixed up with a guy who just wanted sex, and she was forced to dump him? Should she start a chain note or facebook group just because she thinks she knows the standard to which every male in the world must hold himself to just so that she'll have more dating options?

Sure, some of the things listed are what guys and girls should think about doing, but not because some crazy self-righteous guy or girl starts a facebook group and gets all the "awwwwww"'s from the opposite sex for it.

I'm sorry, but Facebookers today are getting so caught up in the fuzzies and the actions of their significant other that they forget some underlying, undetectable characteristics that are only discernable through time and getting to know someone. Such as:

Girls, should a guy hold the door open for you? "Of course!" you say. Okay, I'll agree with that. But why? Why should he do that? Because you can't open it for yourself? Because women are better than men? Because guys should treat women with respect? You may or may not agree with one or more of those reasons, but the underlying idea has not been realized.

Guys, should your girlfriend restrain herself from going through your list of text messages on your phone? "Yeah! She should never do something like that!" Okay, but why? Why should she not do that? Because it's rude to do that? Because you'd never cheat on her, but she still should respect your privacy? Because you should be honest enough with her that she doesn't have to suspect anything? Which one is the good reason why she shouldn't do that?

The point I'm trying to drive at, is that IT'S NOT THE VISIBLE THINGS THAT THE BOYFRIEND OR GIRLFRIEND SHOULD BE LOOKING FOR IN THEIR SIGNIFICANT OTHER! It's their heart! And how do you know someone's heart? They tell you, right? Wrong. The only way to get to know someone, and what they want and need is to be around them. Make him/her a part of your life. Make them an IMPORTANT part of your life. Not the center of your universe, just a big chunk of it.

Yes, many girls may like their boyfriend to hold open the door, to watch the occasional chick flick, to deal with her period. But is that why you love your boyfriend? It shouldn't be. You should love him because you love him!
Yes, guy want their girl to let him have space, to let him have his geeky moment and hang with his friends that she just doesn't relate to as well as he does, but is that why you love her? NO! You should love her because you love her! Not because of something he/she does or doesn't do for you, but because TRUE LOVE IS NOT REACTIVE! It does not depend on what kind of person they are, It depends on what kind of person YOU are.

When I tell my Sarah that I love her, it's not because she's kind to me. It's not because she's sweet and considerate. It's not because she's beautiful. It's not because she does "the little things." True, my Sarah is all those things, but that's not why I love her. They just make it easy for me to LIKE her.

No, I love my Sarah because I choose to. I know what she likes/dislikes because I choose to invest in her life and getting to know her. And I know what she likes because SHE TELLS ME. Not because I had to track down her facebook groups that give some crazy list of what I should do because I'm a guy with a girlfriend. My Sarah is unique. She is not like "every girl." She has her own special likes and dislikes, and I take much pleasure in learning them, because I choose to. Not because of anything she can give me or do for me (and believe me, she has more to offer than any girl I could dream up), but because I have a love that originates from God, that doesn't wait for the other person to be "worth it" or to show some kind of characteristic that appeals to me.

This, I think, is what all couples need to do for their loved one. THEN, all that other stuff like good communication, "the little things", and the fuzzies just simply because a natural byproduct of decisions (and emotions) to love the other person.

Joe Legal vs. Jose Illegal

Thought this was interesting...

Here is an example of why hiring illegal aliens is not economically productive for the State of California...

You have 2 families..."Joe Legal" and "Jose Illegal". Both families have 2 parents, 2 children and live in California.

"Joe Legal" works in construction, has a Social Security Number, and makes $25.00 per hour with payroll taxes
deducted....

"Jose Illegal" also works in construction, has "NO" Social Security Number, and gets paid $15.00 cash "under the table".

Joe Legal...$25.00 per hour x 40 hours = $1000.00 per week, $52,000 per year.

Now take 30% away for state federal tax...Joe Legal now has $31,231.00.

Jose Illegal...$15.00 per hour x 40 hours $600.00 per week = $31,200.00 per year.
Jose Illegal pays no taxes...
Jose Illegal now has $31,200.00

Joe Legal pays Medical and Dental Insurance with limited coverage $1000.00 per month $12,000.00 per year.
Joe Legal now has $19,231.00.

Jose Illegal has full Medical and Dental coverage through the state and local clinics at a cost of $0.00 per year.
Jose Illegal still has $31,200.00.

Joe Legal makes too much money is not eligible for Food Stamps or welfare.
Joe Legal pays for food $1,000.00 per month = $12,000.00 per year.
Joe Legal now has $7,231.00.

Jose Illegal has no documented income and is eligible for Food Stamps and Welfare.
Jose Illegal still has $31,200.00.

Joe Legal pays rent of $1,000.00 per month = $12,000.00 per year.
Joe Legal is now in the hole... minus (-) $4,769.00

Jose Illegal receives a $500 per month Federal rent subsidy
Jose Illegal pays rent $500.00 per month = $6,000.00 per year.
Jose Illegal still has $25,200.00

Joe Legal now works overtime on Saturdays or gets a part time job after work.

Jose Illegal has nights and weekends off to enjoy with his family.

Joe Legal's and Jose Illegal's children both attend the same school.
Joe Legal pays for his children's' lunches while Jose Illegal's children get a government sponsored lunch.

Jose Illegal's children have an after school ESL program. Joe Legal's children go home.

Joe Legal and Jose Illegal both enjoy the same Police and Fire Services, but Joe paid for them and Jose did not pay.

Also consider the fact that there are some illegal immigrants/aliens that "buy" a Social Security Number illegally from American frauds who sell them. Those immigrants/aliens use those Social Security Numbers to get "legit" jobs. Those illegal immigrants/aliens get a job that pays (for example) 40k annually. Social Security is taken out of these "legit" incomes. These Social Security witholdings total about 60,000,000,000.00 annually. Because the identity of these illegal immigrants/aliens cannot be reconciled to their actual identity, those SS witholdings ARE NEVER COLLECTED. Where does this money go? It goes one of two places: It is absorbed into the national debt, or In the event of notional budget overflow, the money is held indefinitely until such time as national debt occurs, or budget changes are made that require this money.

In short, the government is making an average of $60 BILLION off of illegal immigrants/aliens every year!!!!!

Please take into consideration these statements before voting for/supporting any governmental leadership that would support illegal immigrants/aliens.

Folks, there's a right way and a wrong way to be an American. Granted, the process of becoming an American needs a LOT of work, and it is a tedious (and sometimes ridiculous) undertaking, but you don't rob a bank to make a living do you? So why cheat the citizens of America (and possibly yourself) by supporting those in power (or potentially in power) that would allow such things to occur?

p.s. A BIG "congratulations" to my friend, Jose G. and my other friends who have suffered the process of becoming an American the proper way. You guys (and gals) rock! You'll make better American than most of us!






just a thought:)A Little over the top, but thought-provoking.

I shall call him...mini-"G"

So, I was watching Private Practice (in truth, it was on TV and I was barely paying attention) when I heard a character make the comment that while she didn't believe in God, even if she did, she couldn't believe that God would allow her mom to suffer a painful, drawn out death via brain tumor.

I can't tell you how many times I've heard people make comments just like this one. "I don't believe in a god who sends people to hell," "I don't want to believe in a god that lets millions of African children die of starvation," and "I don't believe in a god that [doesn't fit the description I have in my mind]" are just a few comments I've heard.

While (1) God doesn't send anyone to hell--Acts 16:30-31, Genesis 4:17 & 3:17 etc. and (2) God doesn't cause famine from spite--Genesis 3:17, Mark 6:41-42, the bigger question is:

WHO ARE WE TO SAY WHO GOD IS AND ISN'T OR WHAT HE IS/ISN'T LIKE?

It sounds like these people are creating a god IN THEIR OWN IMAGE. Last time I checked, the Bible was the source that states who God is. It defines Him by His actions and words.

Consider these statements:
1. The God of the Bible is the Creator of EVERYTHING.
2. This same God exercises sovereignty (meaning complete control and power) over His creation.

Now, if you believe both of the above statements, then the following statement must also be true: God can do whatever He wants, whenever He wants, to whomever He wants, with or without anyone else's permission or approval. Now, if all three of these statements are true, then why do people who claim to be Christian (and Christ claimed that He Himself was God in John 1:1,14 & 10:30) say and/or think things like those original statements? It seems like too many people want to make God a mini-me version that they've conceived in their own mind, rather than looking to Scripture to get a true definition of who He is...